Lots of people dislike arguments, and arguments about religion in particular. It’s often asked, “Why do you even bother telling people that their personal beliefs are wrong?” The common counterargument is that beliefs inform our decisions, and as citizens of a democratic society we are subject to other people’s decisions.
But here, I hope to get at the root issue. I believe people complain about arguments because they’ve had negative experiences with arguments. Indeed, everyone and their mother seems to have an anecdote about an argument about religion, where the other person was totally obnoxious. One theory about these anecdotes is that they were obnoxious because they were arguing about religion, and no one should ever argue about religion. Another theory is that they were obnoxious because the arguments were non-consensual.